To ensure our safety we need to strengthen en guard our boundaries. We don't have to be aggressive about it; it is possible to be firm and protective in a respectful and even loving way. We are allowed to say 'no' and stick to it, even if it means we have to say 'no'to our loved ones. Once we make clear what our boundaries are, it is the one trying to cross them that is at fault; we have the right to defend our boundaries.
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